Stop working on "making others accept their mistakes"

Another easy way to mess up and frustrate your life is to make focused attempts to make others accept that they did a mistake. Very rarely will you be successful. Building on the example from "Expectation Management" topic, is it fair on the wife's part to expect her husband to apologize? You are the best judge. 

When you expect others to apologize, they will not do so because of 2 reasons:

1. They genuinely think they did not make a mistake.

2. Even if they believe they did a mistake, their ego doesn’t allow them to accept their mistake and apologize. They will find some reason to convince themselves and you that they are right.

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This leads to more frustration and stress for you and this a never ending spiral. You will keep remembering this issue whenever you meet this person OR when a similar situation arises. You will again relive the same pain and stress each time you remember this issue.

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This is the situation with 1 person. Imagine you have 3 to 4 such issues with each person and around 20 people that you meet regularly. So, there are 60 to 80 situations where your requirement of expecting an apology is not met. This would mean that at any given point of time, you are in pain for one of these situations.

Imagine how you treat your family/friends/colleagues when you are in this state of mind. You will mistreat them, pass on the negative energy to them and this just keeps spreading.

Long story short – Is it really worth it?

The root cause of this issue is – Your focused effort on making someone apologize. Once you stop doing this,  your life becomes much better!! Do you want to give it a try?