Don’t let others decide what is right for you. How your mind/body works is 100% in your control

Building on the previous topic, the focus here is on how much you let others control your life. You may unwillingly fall into a slave-syndrome where another person becomes your master. You do whatever that person wants you to do irrespective of whether you like what he/she wants. This could be because of financial dependence, emotional dependence, physical dependence or just the love you have for that person. Below are a few examples:

1. Your spouse makes you work overtime so that he/she can spend your hard earned money in a casino

2. Your manager makes you work more than your fair share by hanging an axe of lay-off on your neck.

3. Your friends keep abusing you and make fun of you for their sadistic pleasure, but that hurts you a lot. However, you do not feel comfortable to challenge them.

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This is a dangerous situation to be in. You need to take control of what you want to do. You can always seek guidance and help from others, but if you feel something is incorrect, you cannot be forced by anyone else to do what you think is wrong.

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Please do not misinterpret and abuse this learning into doing incorrect things. A trivial example to drive home my point. All of us are instructed not to cheat in an exam. Just because you feel it is "okay to cheat" you cannot start cheating using the context of this topic. Deep in your conscious you will know what is right and what is wrong. So please implement this learning with a sense of maturity.